Facing Your Dressing Room Fears

Hi lovelies!!

Okay so I had a few days recently where I started to fall back into my old patterns and started getting down on myself about my physical appearance. (Ugh…society back at it again messing with my brain) So this weekend I wanted to try some things out that I knew would get me emotionally back on track. I went to yoga (always helps), spent as much time as possible in the 70 degree sunshine, ate vibrant, colorful foods, and I went shopping. Now let’s be honest here, most of us have had a troubling moment or two while trying on clothes. In one quick change of outfit, the dressing room goes from a place with harmless intent to a full on internal battlefield. The mirror can quickly become a reflection highlighting each and every flaw you may perceive about yourself, thus diminishing self-esteem and lowering chances of a successful shopping experience. But I decided to go and attempt to boost my confidence! Let me tell you…I had an amazing shopping trip. I didn’t buy a dang thing due to finances, but I left feeling so happy and boosted. So much so that it got me thinking…I wish everyone felt this way when they’re shopping. In effort to promote this, I wanted to share with you a few tips to use when feeling overwhelmed or low the next time you’re in the dressing room:

1.) Feel your best before leaving home

Before heading out to shop, make sure you feel confident and look your best. Whether you feel most attractive when you’re fresh faced and casual or when you’re dolled up to the nines; feeling like your best self before stepping in the dressing room can be extremely helpful. Not only will this ensure you’re emotionally well, but it provides a complete view of how each outfit will look once purchased. Ultimately, this tip reinforces the long time saying, “if look good, you’ll feel good”.

2.) Bring a confidant

Have someone who is supportive, honest, and encouraging tag along with you. This may be a close friend, family member, partner, etc., but no matter who it is, make sure it’s someone who knows your needs, and they’re able to create a positive shopping environment. Bringing a confidant will also provide another set of eyes and uplifting comments, which will inevitably help maintain dressing room confidence.

3.) Step outside of your fashion comfort zone

When shopping, people tend to stick to what they’re most comfortable in or what they know looks best on their figure. Though it’s important to search for items that you believe emphasize your favorite assets, it can be a surprising confidence boost to try on something that’s completely out of your comfort zone. You never know, that bright body-con dress might look fabulous, all you have to do is take the risk and try it on!

4.) Bring a variety of sizing options

Sometimes it can become frustrating and defeating to find the right fit in clothing. To help alleviate stress and agitation, bring multiple sizing options into the dressing room with you. This will assure you have everything necessary to find the correct fit, without having to continue asking the sales representative to grab different sizes. Try not to worry about the size on the actual item that fits, size is just a number, not something that defines who you are.

5.) Prepare a positive affirmation

Positive self-talk is one of the most influential, life-changing actions a woman can do for herself. In reality, it’s easy to allow the pressures of the world to convince you that what you see in the mirror isn’t good enough. So instead of listening to that external force, remind yourself in the mirror of just how remarkable you truly are. Saying something even as simple as “I am enough” will turn your thoughts from destructive to empowering. Self-confidence is sure to soar.

Facing your dressing room fears can be tough, but it’s important to know this; no matter what happens while shopping, remember that you’re strong, you’re worthy, and you’re so much more than what a mirror may tell you. Now spring dresses just came out…treat yo self to some shopping!

Wishing you so much love and serentity throughout the next week!

Welp…It’s Valentine’s Day.

Guys, let’s do a little check in. Since today’s Valentine’s day…how are we feeling? Some of you are probably feeling a multitude of emotions: excitement, sadness, frustration, adoration, nervousness, love, heartbreak, etc. Now, if you’re one of the people feeling excited, loved and adored this February, I want to say I’m so incredibly happy for you! YOU DESERVE IT. For those of you that are single and feeling negative about this holiday, this post is dedicated to you.

I haven’t really talked much about my breakup this past November, but let me tell you what, it’s been a real bitch to get through. Though I’m content with my decision to no longer continue a relationship with my ex, I can’t say it’s been a picnic in the park getting over him. I’ve been through a roller coaster of emotions the past few months, but mostly I’ve been lost. As Valentine’s day has arrived, I couldn’t help but become a complete hater on the whole holiday. Like really though….single awareness day much?! Fact is, I’m single and I continue to adjust to this new change in my life. The transition has been tough, one filled with tears and ambiguity, but whoa has it been eye opening. Let me explain.

Being newly single has not only allowed me sweet freedom, but it’s also opened me up to start questioning things. Things like why are we so pressed on being in relationships?? Why is being alone viewed as being SO awful? Why am I searching for someone else to make me happy? Reality check: though I believe biologically we need to experience love and human connection, society has taught us that we’ll never be complete without a lover by our side. Well, I call bull.

In the beautiful words of Rupi Kaur (if you don’t have her book titled Milk and Honey, GO GET IT RIGHT NOW), “you are in the habit of co-depending on people to make up for what you think you lack, who tricked you into believing another person was meant to complete you when the most they can do is complement.” Here’s the deal, a significant other will never make you whole; YOU are the only piece that matters in the puzzle. It’s insanely easy (and more fun) to try to find happiness in someone else but until we’re ready to do some deep internal work, we’ll be feeling alone forever.

So today, on Valentine’s day, it’s okay to feel sad but don’t let negativity dictate a day meant to celebrate the most beautiful thing in life: LOVE. Dedicate this day to yourself. Dedicate it to giving love and positivity to others all day long. Get some sunshine, eat some chocolate, and buy yourself some damn flowers today. Celebrate the loving people and relationships you already do have. Don’t depend on anyone else to love you today, because you’re pretty freaking amazing just as you are if you ask me! It’s important that you know this and only this, I love you and you’re not alone.

 

Thanks for reading lovelies!

rupi-kaur

 

 

 

 

Finding Balance Through Self-Love.

Ah, my favorite buzz word, balance. It seems that in the self-love/mental health/self-improvement/spiritual/whatever world you reside in, we’re always talking about this thing called balance. We’re told that we must have balanced work lives, balanced diets, balanced priorities, balance in each and every decision. Now of course it’s inspiring to hear about the importance of balance, but here’s my question: what the hell does balance even mean? How are we expected to balance our lives when the world around us is so unbalanced? Well here we go….let’s dive in.

To put it simply, balance is practicing and doing things that feel natural, good, and uplifting. Balance is being cognitively aware of giving attention to your mind, your body, and your spirit. Balance is working to live, not living to work. Balance is choosing to equally eat doughnuts (ya’ll know my love for doughnuts!!) and green vegetables. Balance is prioritizing things that make you smile as often as things must accomplish and complete. Balance is fairly making decisions based off of both rational, gut instinct and what your heart longs for.

So on that note… I have to be honest with ya’ll. I’ve been struggling with finding balance in all areas of my life (hence my month-long break from blogging…whoops!) for so long now. I’ve been overwhelmed with work, school, my social life, my goals, and managing constant change. Needless to say, I’ve been exhausted!

Well here’s my testament, I’ve decided to commit myself to claiming my balance back! I decided to start by incorporating balance mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually:

  • Mentally- I’ve committed myself to reading for pleasure more frequently. I’ve found that taking time to shut off and expand your mind feels SO good.
  • Physically- This is a hard line for me, as I will always be a woman who promotes body positivity, but I have started exercising more frequently. I don’t do this for any other benefit than it’s important for my to move my body and use it to its full potential. Exercising from a place of self-love versus self-hatred…I highly recommend it!
  • Emotionally- I find myself comparing myself to others A LOT lately, especially on social media. I hate the negativity that cultivates, so I’ve been setting larger limits on the amount of time I spend on social media. Airplane mode is my best friend lately.
  • Spiritually- Meditation, meditation, meditation. As a lot of you know, yoga and nature are huge components of my life to encourage balance, but meditation has taken things to a new level. Anyone with anxiety…trust me…this stuff works.

I’ve found through this recent commitment to find balance that, though it takes hard work, it really comes down to one question. Do you love and value yourself enough to create balance in life? I’m learning that balance is defined and achieved with greater ease, if you’re rooted and accepting of who you are. Just another reason to join me on the journey toward building YOURSELF up.  The journey of treating yourself with the care and love you so graciously give to others.

My hope is that you, yourself begin to find a healthful routine and self-loving thought process, that brings you mental peace, joy and balance. Why? Because let’s be real…we all need serenity in this oh-so-crazy, messy, precious thing we call life!

 

Thanks for reading lovelies!!!!

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